Is It Possible To Stop The Divorce Process?

In life you will sometimes find yourself headed towards a particular direction but then realize the need for changing your mind about where you would like to go. If your marriage seems headed for divorce but you are having second thoughts, it is possible to start feeling like you are on the wrong path and would like to change course quickly.

This is reminiscent of a story about John who was in a similar situation. He had instigated divorce proceedings with his wife. At the time, the marriage was in a rocky patch and he was very sure that the smartest path to happiness was divorce. He called his lawyer and that was that.

One day, John was looking through some of the old photos of him and his wife on the beach. The photos had been taken while on vacation in Maine, which is hardly comparable to their Southern California home. The beach was both mysterious and romantic and as the couple was taking a walk in the evening light, they discovered a small restaurant close to the water. They pulled up some chairs then proceeded to eat the best clam bake they had ever had.

All these memories began to flood back to John and he wished to be back in the arms of his wife right then on the beach in Maine. He then snapped back to reality. The problem was that he was currently six months into the marital separation and two months into the official divorce proceedings. In addition, his wife was now living fifty miles away in another town.

Immediately, John realized that he had made the wrong decision regarding the divorce since he wanted his wife back desperately. No, he really needed her back. He therefore embarked on a fact finding mission to find out what his options were.

Is it possible to stop the divorce process?

Here is a summary of what John discovered:

  • It is not possible to stop a divorce if your spouse wants the divorce: Marriage is considered to be a partnership contract and it is therefore not possible to stop the divorce if your spouse wants it.
  • It is a no-fault deal: Divorce is considered a no-fault deal in most states, which means that a spouse that wants the divorce can do it without the other spouse’s consent.
  • Legally speaking, every divorce has a timeline known as a chronology: While it might vary from one state to the next, divorce has a chronology of about seven steps including: complaint filing, document exchange, response, settlement, trial, issuance of the divorce decree, and even possible appeal.
  • Whether it is possible to stop the divorce depends on where you are with respect to the chronology: Most states have a waiting period between the filing time and the finalization of the divorce. If both partners would like to stop the divorce they can simply withdraw the divorce petition.
  • Find out if the judgment has been delivered: If you believe that it is possible to turn things around, find out if judgment has been delivered. If it hasn’t and your partner agrees, it is possible to ask the judge to stop the divorce.

Once John was aware of all the facts, he embarked on the proverbial war path to get his life back together. No longer feeling apathetic about the marriage or feeling dis-empowered in the situation, he set out to win back the love of his wife.

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